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by Angie3390, Nov 05, 2008 02:00PM
I really need some advice. I am a 33 year old happily married mother of five wonderful children, 4 boys and my youngest, one of twins, is a girl. When I was quite young, before I was a teenager, I was molested by my father's brother. After a few years of silence I finally got up enough courage to tell my father. When I told him what had happened, he walked away from me without saying a word. To this day, he has never brought it up and I certainly never did again, either. After many hard years I was able to come to terms with myself and got married and started a family of my own. Since I've had a daughter, however, I have been plagued with bouts of anxiety and panic, and many days, the trauma of my youth haunts me until I am in tears. I just can not seem to get past it again. My children have noticed a difference in me and so has my husband. I've talked to my husband about what is wrong with me. He suggested that I talk to a counselor, however, I have never, ever, told anyone exactly what had been done to me and I know the words will never come out of my mouth. I don't know what to do. How can I leave the past behind me where it belongs?
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by SixStringer, Nov 13, 2008 03:33PM
To: Angie3390
Like your husband, I too believe that you should talk this over with the right counselor who works with such issues on a daily basis. Take some time to research and find someone that you would feel comfortable with, possibly getting a referral from your regular physician or someone else whose judgment you trust, if you can't come up with someone on your own.
by Nanabanana6, Dec 30, 2008 07:09AM
To: Childhood trauma
I understand what you are going thru. I expereinced molestation by my step father. Counceling is one of the best ways to close the door to the past and open a new one. You deserve to be free from this misery and enjoy your beautiful babies. What happened to you is painful and brings up so many emotions. I experienced guilt, fear, shame, anger, and what was even harder to comprehend was the fact that I still loved the man who violated my trust. He was supposed to be my daddy. Your supposed to love your daddy and when you are a child it's hard to digest that adults willingly do things to harm you. I have gone to counceling several times and I can't tell you enough...... Do this for yourself, you are worth it. Your kids need you to be emotioanlly healthy. No offense intended but I did feel more comfortable talking with a woman councelor. I just didnt trust that any man would be truly respectful of my feelings at the time. Trust does come, and you learn to eventually forgive. Bless you and Please Please take time to take care of you!
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