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help not a supportive spouse

by tlcha, Nov 06, 2008 07:36AM
I just found out that I am gluten sensitive. It's on the lower end I was 29 the scale is 10 or higher gluten sensitive. From what I understand gluten sensitive is gluten sensitive no matter what the number. I have been so sickly the last couple years. I want my life back. My problem is since i found oput my husband is not supportive. He's like start this diet tomorrow. Your not gonna put our family in turmoil over this. What about what I have been going through. Just learning how to eat is more than I can handle on top of having anxiety depression aches and pains and just feeling sickly plus bowel issues for the past 2 years. Did anyone else go through this?
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by 5thave, Nov 07, 2008 10:50AM
To: tlcha
I am so sorry your husband is behaving like this. He just does not understand how sick it can make you and how life changing this is. Once you start the gf diet in a few weeks you will feel tremendously better. It is life changing once you get it out of your system and eat gf. It is a hard transition but you can do it. You will miss food but just remember then how sick you felt. When i accidentally get glutened I instantly remember and don't want it ever again. As we feel better and time goes by we do want our old foods back. Gettin sick cures that craving.Your husband needs to understand how difficult this is and also how damaging it is to you.

For me it affected my life in so many ways and now only looking back can I really see the difference in my personality. I kept wondering what was wrong with me and would plug on but just couldn't shake the depression, lack of motivation, happiness that was usually me and overall feeling terrible. Then the stomach issues came on and the constant pain and difference in my stools along with body aches, joint and muscle. It was a year decline till I found what was wrong with me.  But there is light at the end of the tunnel. Start the diet now and you will be feeling so much better later. Tell your husband you need his support because this is killing you and he needs to help you get through this. Isn't that was love is about. Wishing you the best..

by Alyssum78, Nov 17, 2008 03:56PM
Is he concerned about the cost of a gluten-free diet? (I eat gluten-free very inexpensively). Is he concerned that the meals you cook will be gluten-free? The food will taste essentially the same except for baked goods, and there is no reason HE can't still eat bread...

There should be no turmoil, really. Hopefully that will put his mind at ease.

It ***** to be sick for so long and misunderstood, but family can't always understand enough or be sensitive enough to make up for all those feelings. As long as he is cooperative and does not prevent you from being healthy, and as long as he does not become abusive, it might be the best you can expect from him until he begins to feel less threatened by the change. Men can be blockheads but tend to come around if you leave them alone to think it through for a few weeks.

Truly, don't try to force him to understand. That will come with time. Anytime we push men too fast, make them feel wrong or insensitive, or try to tell them how to think, they become stubborn and contrary. If he's a decent individual he will come around on his own like an adult.
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